Meeting your unmet personal and emotional needs and living your life to its fullest is one factor that can greatly increase your attractiveness and ability to main great relationships. A lot of those in great relationships have consciously or unconsciously discovered and connected with this secret. This is the secret you need to be totally irresistible to your current spouse or potential partner. [...]

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Often the saying goes that “it is better to be with someone who loves you more than someone you love”. Sounds so right at first consideration but really, why would anyone want to have someone love them more than they are willing to love in a relationship?

Most people definitely will find this very appealing as it makes one seem safe in the relationship. This reassuring feeling comes from feeling that if he/she loves you more, it will be difficult for them to hurt you after they are lucky to have you in their life. [...]

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In today’s fast paced society, it is ironical to find that while the rate of people getting married is drastically falling (59 percent – down from 62 percent in 1990, 72 percent in 1970), the rate of divorce is instead on the rise (10 percent – up from 8 percent in 1990, 6 percent in 1980).

What could be the cause of this societal ill that is wrecking the very fabric of our family and communal existence? A simple truth would be that when the love that any union is founded upon gives way to distrust, arguments and constant bickering, the ultimately end is an inevitable breakup or divorce. [...]

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As a pastor for more than 32 years, I have participated in my fir share of weddings as well as having had the pleasure of counseling many couples. I am a big fan or marriage – when it’s right. But getting it right can be as difficult as baking a soufflé in a wood-burning stove.

This year (September 2008), marriage takes on new significance in my life. I celebrate 26 years of marriage to my beautiful wife, Serita, and I also will see my youngest daughter marry. For my wife and me, it is a celebration of survival against many odds. But for my daughter and her fiancé, it’s the beginning of an expedition filled with wonderment and warnings, amorous connections and deeply spiritual contemplations. [...]

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Most women get frustrated when trying to communicate with their spouses. They often talk to men in languages they believe the men in their lives should be able to grasp only to sound as if they are speaking in a foreign language.

Women understand themselves so much and very easily land on the same page when discussing most issues. Unfortunately, women expect same understanding from their spouse without understanding the differences between how men and women communicate their feelings in general. It is therefore imperative for women to have a clear picture of how men think, listen and express their feelings in order to chart a new course in effectively communicating with their partners. [...]

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Most people find it easier sticking around in a one-sided relationship, believing that their spouse will one day come to his/her senses rather than just walk away. For ladies, this is truer as many feel that because their guy has not made any move to end the relationship shows that he may still be committed to it to some degree. But the truth of the matter is that most guys dislike confrontation so much that they rather just hang on in to the relationship than be the one to call it quit. This holds true because accordingly to a Harvard University study of about 231 Boston couples, women were often the ones who suggested the separation. [...]

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Most people today would find it almost unbelievable that there are still people in this sexually explicit society who are unenlightened about sex and sexual matters. However, the disturbing truth of the matter is that a lot of couples today struggle with the issue of sexuality. [...]

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Loving who you are and finding true personal happiness is the first step to falling in love and finding true love. However a lot of people tend to focus on their partner as the source of their happiness and blame them as being the cause of their dissatisfaction and disharmony in life. [...]

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In its most basic expression – a simple, yet sincere apology satisfies many situations. No matter how effective your communication skills, how sensitive you may be, or how compatible or in love you might be with your spouse, sooner or later you are bound to do something that will either hurt or embarrass your partner. How then do you know when you have wronged your partner and to sincerely apologize? [...]

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Men are often made to look like they are the unromantic ones in most relationships and less romantic than women in general. At first glance, a good majority will unflinchingly say that women are the more romantic. However when it comes to the truly deep and important definition of romance, the opposite is often the case. [...]

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