Reasons Why Men Leave Relationships
The beauty of starting a relationship is often so interesting and enlivening that one hardly gives a thought about the possibility of a breakup or a fall apart later in the course of the relationship. Like the saying goes “everything that has a beginning has an end” and so it is with most relationships but definitely not all. However, there are reasons adjudged to be probable causes of relationship failures and in this article we will be looking at why men often leave relationships.
There are various reasons that might be given as to why most men leave relationships and at times these relationships are those ones that can be categorise as blissful to say the least. So why would men leave that type of a relationship or any other relationship for that matter.
To begin with there is the most fundamental issue of the man himself in the relationship being the causative factor for his leaving the relationship. These reasons may revolve around his inner needs, conflicts and aspirations and not necessarily have anything to do with the woman. These personal factors play a more major role in why men often leave relationships and the other reasons can be adduced to come from the woman and various external factors.
The first three reasons below are those that deal with the man’s often personal reasons for leaving a relationship and the others tenable reasons he might also leave a relationship.
Has Concept of an Idealised Perfect Partner
A lot of men have their secret fantasies about the ideal woman they want in their lives and always look out for these qualities in the woman they are often with. He believes that this woman should not criticise his action and should not make too much demands of him. He dreams of a partner who will give unconditionally and fulfil his every need at any cost.
With such high demands being placed on the woman in the relationship, a situation occurs where everything she does is scrutinised by the man and with such behaviours, it is only a matter of time for him to come to a conclusion that he is probably not with the woman he wants to be with.
Has Not Gotten Over a Past Relationship
This is probably a very big issue with some men that might have been deeply involved in a past loving relationship they considered to be perfect for certain reasons but which unfortunately came to an end. The memories, dreams and longings of such a relationship may still be lingering with them and whenever they are in a new relationship they always wish they could re-enact those exact experiences in the new relationship.
Some men can hold unto the memory of a former lover or wife so intensely that they idealise her so much that it prevents them from ever being able to appreciate and love someone else. They feel soft of comfortable in the safety of the memory they have of their past relationship than for them to attempt a new relationship. For men in this situation, learning to forget the past, and to say goodbye to it is very important as they come to the realisation that they can actually love find love again and in most better than the one they idealise so much.
The Fear of Commitment
Again, a very good reason why men leave relationships is because of their own fear of commitment to another person. They value their freedom so much that they are not ready to relinquish it for any reason and for nobody for that matter.
This fear of commitment makes most men feel that they would be losing the excitement, adventure and freedom of being on their own. Some need the challenge of and adventure most new relationship provides and would not like to feel stifled or trapped in any way.
Fear they Can’t Satisfy the woman
So men are more than willing to commit to a relationship and give anything possible within their means to make the relationship work but it just so happens that their partner is someone who can never be satisfied no matter what is done to please her. These needs may vary from financial, emotional, sexual and to very trivial issues that bother on the satisfaction both parties derive from the relationship.
In some cases the woman cannot just be satisfied no matter what he does and so others, there is just that fear that he cannot satisfy her and thus goes up any attempt to please or make the relationship work.
Demanding, Clingy and Emotional Unstable Partners
Men in general do not like women who are over demanding and arrogant. Although men love women who are independent and confident in themselves, they feel used when a woman attempts to or takes over control of the relationship. This kind of emotional distress can so easily make the man to leave the relationship.
Also, when a lady wants to always be around her man and not give him enough breathing space to have a life outside the relationship; and she appears to take the relationship as her sole source of happiness, then inadvertently the man will feel pretty entangled and would want out of such relationship.
Loss of Attraction
Off all the points mentioned above, I would personally say this is the single most important reason why most men leave relationships. It is the attraction that is the starting point of the relationship and to put it simply, it holds the retaining power in the relationship.
Once the attraction is there in the relationship, no amount of water can sink that ship; together they’ll simply weather any storm. However, when the attraction dies in a relationship (not necessarily the love), and the man no longer feels that deep level of attraction toward the woman, then the whole relationship becomes more of work(a task to accomplish) instead of an adventure to embark upon.
Socio-Economic Stress
One primal need of a man is to be looked up to, valued, respected and recognised by those around him and more importantly by those of his household. When a man loses his job or is unhappy with it, and feels unable to meet up his obligation as a man, these can easily make him loose his self esteem and he may gradually want to find fulfilment outside that relationship and if care is not taken, completely leave the relationship. This is more the case if the woman does not do anything concrete to help reassure him of his place in the relationship but constantly reminds him of his shortcomings.
Therefore, when a man feels that his spouse does not hold him in high esteem, his confidence waivers, and his self-esteem is ruined and in most cases he opts out of the relationship.
The reasons why men leave a relationship may be varied but the above is a sure list to ponder over and take necessary actions to help our relationships grow stronger and more endearing.
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