Last modified on May 23rd, 2020
In the ever evolving world of dating in a cyber era, it is pretty difficult to set any hard and fast rules. The whole essence of dating is to have fun while finding that special someone with whom we are compatible but a few ground rules should help us take out the pressure and increase our chances of success.
Taking the following Do’s and Don’ts to heart will help make a better success of your dating experiences.
The Do’s to Observe
Try to Know Enough About Your Date
Study your date’s profile to try and understand a little more about them so that you can tailor your conversations in a better direction towards his/her background. Also do plan and have an idea about what to do, put some thought into it before you go out and do it while you remain open to your date’s suggestions if your plans don’t work out.
Take Safety Precautions
Take precautions to make sure that you and your date feel safe and comfortable when you go out together. Arrange individual transportation to the venue and make sure it is a public venue for the first dates. If you met your date online, this precaution cannot be overemphasized. Also, tell a friend or two about your plans and possible location.
Try and look your best on a date as this shows that you cared enough to at least make an effort in this regard. Wear decent clothes and groom yourself but do not try to hide your true self. Men and women then to put a lot of effort into getting ready for a date, and so do not disappoint him/her when showing up for a date. And do not forget to freshen up your breath.
Be Interested and Interesting
Do listen and pay good attention when your date is talking. Make and maintain good eye contact and ask questions, share insights and listen when he/she is telling you things of interest to them. Try and switch off your phone during your date to avoid undue interruptions.
Flatter and compliment your date on how he/she looks. Be warm, friendly and happy with your date. For the guys, be a gentleman and act chivalrous, open doors for her, pull out the chair for your date and walk her to her car. The ladies should also allow the guys to show any number of good gestures like helping them with putting on/off their coat, etc.
Smile, Joke and have Fun!
Crack easy jokes as this puts your date at ease and shows a sense of humor. Do not let your nerves take the best of you; enjoy your date fully. A comfortable smile is very attractive and after all, laughter is the best medicine.
Be Honest and Polite
If you are not interested in seeing him/her again after a date, be open to call and tell him/her so. It is not a good idea to keep a date’s hope alive because you are scared of telling them the truth. Let them know the truth in the most polite but firm way.
Follow Up With Your Date
Get back to your date either through phone calls or email and let them know you had a wonderful time with them. It is simply a courtesy call and thereafter you might call again if you intend to see them again.
The Don’ts to Avoid
Don’t be Late!
Be punctual on dates. For the guys, women should never be kept waiting or have to seat alone. Leave plenty of time to get ready. If you are running late, call your date informing him/her on when you will be arriving.
Don’t Discuss Emotional or Controversial Topics
Veer off controversial topics such as politics and religion, money and, like a plague avoid talking about an ex. Instead talk about lighter subjects like your favourite fashion designer, books, sports or latest movies.
Don’t be too Physically Forward
Avoid becoming intimate with someone before you truly know who they are. Acting needy or desperate and too much show of “public display of affection” are general turn off for first dates.
Don’t be too Available
Being available all the time makes you uninteresting, too predictable, and somewhat desperate and these take away the dating thrill. Be busy, unavailable and make yourself interesting. Restrict your calls and never call, text message or email someone you have just started dating more than once a day unless they reply.
Don’t be Pretentious
While trying to be impressive, you should avoid pretending. Be yourself no matter what. If your date doesn’t like the real you, it is ok, look for someone else who will. Remember the reason for dating is to find a compatible partner.
Don’t be Jealous
If your date happens to talk about his/her friends of the opposite sex, or perhaps you even meet some of them, do not be jealous or intimidated. These are perfect opportunities for you to demonstrate how confident, secure and mature you are as a person.
Don’t be Pressured
While dating is to be fun, if you feel pressured or threatened in any way by your date, do not hesitate to re-evaluate the situation and remove yourself from there immediately. Do not pressure anyone for sex or even a kiss. Avoid giving out presents too early; wait till you are both more comfortable with each other.
Never Date a Married Person
It is exceptionally rare statistically that they will leave their husband or wife just for you. This is a sure path to heartaches, lies, deceit, misery and lack of self respect. If you are single, do not be a shoulder for married people to cry on, a lot of eligible partners are out and you sure do deserve better.