Things You Can Do When He Doesn’t Love You Back

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Most people find it easier sticking around in a one-sided relationship, believing that their spouse will one day come to his/her senses rather than just walk away. For ladies, this is truer as many feel that because their guy has not made any move to end the relationship shows that he may still be committed to it to some degree. But the truth of the matter is that most guys dislike confrontation so much that they rather just hang on in to the relationship than be the one to call it quit. This holds true because accordingly to a Harvard University study of about 231 Boston couples, women were often the ones who suggested the separation.

  • Coming to think of it, most of the time when ladies find it difficult letting go, it is not really about losing the guy but rather the feeling of loneliness that they dread – not having someone and to start all over again. Hanging onto a faltering relationship can however lead to emotional problems.

    Apart from the hurt and sadness this might be causing in your life as a lady, you are also losing your confidence and self-esteem. If you feel that you guy might no longer be into you and wondering what the best options for you might be, then the following tips will assist you cut the cord with your self-esteem unimpaired.

    Reassess Your Relationship

    First and foremost, it is important that you take a sincere assessment of your relationship. One very important thing you can do that will help you here is to make a list of all the things you hoped this relationship should been by now and compare it with what you have on ground at the moment. If your gut instincts are telling you that you might just be on the edge of losing him, then you just might be right.

    Try Letting Go

    The fear of most ladies for sticking around a guy who no longer loves them is that of being left alone again. Things however can become really difficult depending on how long you have been in the relationship because of the time and emotional energy you might have put into it. Also, after coming to terms with reality and deciding it’s time to move out and move on with your life, it might become hurtful as you tend to feel jilted.

    Is He Really Worth It?

    Is this Romeo really worth all the fuss? Think of all the negatives about this guy that you’ve been brushing aside as inconsequential. Do you remember 500 Days of Summer – in which the guys had a dose of their own medicine? May be you just need to clean those rose-colored glasses you’ve been wearing all along. He probably wasn’t all that good or fun to be around in the first place.

  • No Self-Pity Here, Please!

    Make a reverse and don’t you try going down the “what’s wrong with me?” road. It holds nothing good for you. No matter how you may be feeling presently, realize that you are not a loser – he just doesn’t realize what he is missing. If the love you dreamt of blossoming between you both didn’t flourish, then maybe you were just not meant for each other. So let him go!

    Let go of all negative emotions that might have built up during this process, get your life back on track by getting involved in ego-boosting diversions like your job, fitness training, or community service etc. Be free again and let happiness radiate through you making you a sexier catch for your Mr. Right.

    Tuesday, April 12th, 2011 Conflicts and Breakups